What do you think about when you hear the name “Hermione Granger”?
Her bossiness? Her organizational skills? Her cleverness? Her compassion?
Hermione is one of those great female characters—logical, practical, sensible, grounded in reality, and truly the “brightest witch of her age.” There “isn’t a spell” she can’t do. If she can read it in a book, she can make it happen. But, she’s still a girl. When Ron insults her, she spends her day crying in the girl’s bathroom. She consoles Ginny when Ginny breaks up with Dean. She is angry with Ron when he finally gets around to realizing, “Hermione, you’re a girl!” (“Oh, well spotted!”).
The clever, funny, bossy Hermione is a Thinker personality type (ESTJ, to be precise).
People search this blog all the time with combinations of female and Thinker personalities. I’m not sure if it’s Thinker-females searching for some sense of “normality,” or if it’s Dominant Function Feeler types trying to understand the mindset of a T-female. Either way, the bottom line comes down to… what is it like to be a Thinker female?
It’s hard. Like Hermione, we don’t quite fit in with most girls. We deal in rationality and logic instead of emotion, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be sensitive and aware of other people’s feelings.
It doesn’t mean we can’t get our feelings hurt, either.
Or that we have it “together” all the time.
Just like Hermione, we’re girls. We have biologically-driven hormones that can cause mood swings. That, we can’t control… and we hate it, because it’s “so not us” to break down in tears over stupid things!
Like Hermione, we’re not all loners, either. We make friends. We tend to be somewhat sociable, even if we’re tired later. We may not want to “fit in,” but usually we have no deep desire to be totally isolated.
As mothers, we may not be the most warm creatures on earth (we want to protect our kids by “solving their problems” more than just listening to their woes), but we are devoted, practical, and protective.
Like Hermione, we can be blunt know-it-alls but most of us have a good heart.
So the next time you look at the Thinker-female in your life, see Hermione.