For years I’ve been trying to figure out why women love the Twilight series. It’s just a love story. Since there are a million other love stories out there, what makes it special? I now think it’s because Bella has two great guys vying for her affection. This may seem like a “duh” but let’s stop to analyze it for a moment. Look around you. Do you see a lot of single girls? How about single guys? Not so much the latter? Yeah, we girls have noticed it too. By some strange phenomenon, there aren’t any young men anymore. I wish I knew where they were, because it’s not around here or in the many towns, cities, and suburbs in which my girl friends live all across the country. If young men did exist, my friends would be married by now. They all have the same problem: they want to be a wife but have no marital prospects because looking around them, young men aren’t in church anymore. Or on the street. Or hanging out online. Or working in the Hardware Store.
So the question on our lips is… where are they?
I wish I had the answers. I meet an occasional young man and nine times out of ten he’s already married. There cannot be that many more girls than boys. So where are the single guys? My current theory is a lot of my generation joined the military after 9/11, in which case those that survived combat should come home eventually… right?
I like this theory, because my other two ideas aren’t nice. The first involves alien abduction and experimentation, which can be traumatic for those involved, especially if they were unwilling in the first place.
The second is that guys simply are not interested in marriage, in becoming financially secure, or in being ambitious and acting as a provider; that the ambition of women made them content to live in their parents’ basement and make just enough money to purchase new video games.
What about college? There are guys there but my age group is approaching 30. Unless he plans on being a brain surgeon and an astronaut in his spare time, he should be out by now.
Which brings us back to the world of Twilight, where Bella has the privilege of choosing between two guys. Never mind that one is a vampire and the other is a werewolf, that’s not the point. The point is that girls project themselves onto Bella and want to be in her shoes. Edward is a gentleman who insists on marriage instead of just “hooking up.” And Jacob is a total darling, always there for her, willing to help her through her rough times, and always ready to protect her if need be. (I’m Team Jacob, if you care.)
That’s what girls want. That’s why romances on screen and in books are so popular and why young women like the series so much. They are projecting their desires onto Bella, secretly wishing for a guy that measures up to these imaginary boys. (Don’t ask me why older, married women love the books. I don’t know and don’t want to know.)
I know there must be single guys out there who want to fulfill the role God designed for them as leaders, husbands, and fathers. I don’t know where they are or why they haven’t shown up in any of our lives, but since I don’t remember hearing about a male-only rapture on the news, they must exist. Somewhere.
Or maybe they don’t exist. Because if they do, they have some explaining to do. ♥